Backbitting & Gossiping

Fear Allah and obey Him. Be afraid of the Day when you shall be brought back to Allah. Then every person shall be paid what he earned; and they shall not be dealt with unjustly” (Al-Baqarah 2: 281)

Major sins are indeed the cause for all misery, evil and torment in this world and the hereafter. And the worst of all sins are those that are greatest in harm and danger. Among the destructive major sins are backbiting and slandering.

These two sins were forbidden by Allah through His Prophet because they sow enmity, evils and discord among people and lead to destruction. They make their perpetrator regret when regret will be of no avail. They cause hostilities between people of the same household and between neighbours and relatives. They can decrease in good deeds and increase in evil ones and lead to dishonour and ignominy.

Backbiting and slandering are shame and disgrace. Their perpetrator is detested and he shall not have a noble death. Allah forbids these acts in His Book when He says,

“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, in deeds some suspicions are sins. And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah, verily, Allah is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful” (Al-Hujuraat 49: 12).

This verse strongly forbids backbiting for Allah likens the backbiter to one who eats the flesh of his dead brother. If he would hate eating the flesh of his brother, he should also hate to eat his flesh while he is alive by backbiting and slandering him.

When one reflects deeply over this assimilation it will be enough to keep one away from backbiting.

Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said, “Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of Allah said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.” . (Muslim)

Abu Moosa Al-Ash’aree said, “I asked the Messenger of Allah: Who is the best Muslim? The Messenger of Allah replied, “He is the one from whom Muslims are safe from the evil of his tongue and hands.” (Muslim)

Dear Muslims! Beware of slipping of your tongues and do not give it free hand to wreak havoc on you. For free tongue destroys its owner and causes him calamities and evils.

Backbiting is so widespread that it has become the topic of people’s meetings and an avenue for expressing their anger, misgivings and jealousy with those who indulge in backbiting believing that they are hiding their own imperfections and harming others. They are oblivious of the fact that they are only harming themselves. This is because the backbiter if the wrongdoer and his victim is the wronged and on the Day of Resurrection both the wrongdoer and the wronged will stand before Allah Who is the Just Judge and the wronged will appeal to Allah to avenge the wrong done to him, Allah will then give this wronged person from the good deeds of the person who wronged him in accordance with his wrong by backbiting his brother on a Day that no father will give his son any of his good deeds nor a friend to his friend. All will be saying, ‘Myself, myself.’

The Prophet(SAW) said,. “The gossiper will not enter Paradise.”.


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14 Responses to “Backbitting & Gossiping”

  1. These days, it is normal for somebody to talk badly about someone behind their back and not think its a major sin. What advice can you give somebody to stop backbitting? I was not aware of the hadith of the gossiper being not allowed to enter heaven..thanks for the knowledge.

    Peace

  2. Muslimah Says:

    its easy for people to talk about others behind their back now adays 😦

    May Allah forgive them Ameen

  3. Sakina & Sara Says:

    mashallah such a nice post. may Allah let you continue your site more

  4. hi..
    i’m from malaysia..
    i would like to copy the image of the three figures backbiting the other one figure..for my recent entry (about backbiting in blogs) in my blog.. :=)

    may i..?

    http://nafiiz.wordpress.com

  5. Muslimah Says:

    salam Alykom nafiiz,

    yes, sure you can copy any image you want, but link it to the blog 🙂

    May Allah guide you to the right path Ameen!

  6. ganda ilmana Says:

    assalamu’alaikum muslimah..
    i’m so proud to have a sister like u..

    i’m from indonesia..where are u from?

    it’s so nice to read ur posts..
    keep writing!!
    show the world the beauty of islam..

    may Allah always be with u..

  7. the thing is taht i dont backbite any1s back and my frindes back bitt my back and i say nothin wht shall i do i cant live it down anymore cuz i am not scared of them anymore i have had enghough of dhem plus my name is javairia ayub so if any of my frindes read dis i would be happy if they keep me happy and dont back bite my back that is mean and nastey and if any of my frindes are looking up on dis now they will no wht i feel like just5 like i told one of my frindes that i like someone and taht friened went of and told my otherfriend and i actully call taht back bitting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  8. Hi.I’from I.R.Iran
    I enjoy this topic and want to break copyright law and post it in our university weblog…can I?

    • Salam Amir,

      Sure you can copy this topic! We are brothers and sisters in Islam and Our religion connects us together no matter where you come from.

      However, you can add this blog address on your university weblog.
      https://forevermuslim.wordpress.com

      May Allah take you to the right path Ameen.

  9. may Allah continue to guide and give you knowledge amin

  10. hi im from i.r too! I liked yr clip ther. can i use it for my essay about backbitin?thnks __salam

  11. alhamdulila Says:

    mashallah very beautiful, im doing a hallqa on gossip and a couple of other things
    thanks this really helped!

  12. Lucky this is the site I got the Islamic information from. Salaamu-Alaikum now I must go to bed.

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